Daarom dus de opvang overlaten aan de overheid. Voor een korte tijd prima maar op de lange termijn krijg je ellende.
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https://www.reddit.com/r/(...)ay_my_wife_told_our/After over 4 months today my wife told our ukrainian family that they have to find a different place to stay.I am from Germany. For over 4 months me and my wife had a ukranian family of three stay with us. The came to us in the beginning of March, a woman, her husband and a little 10 year old girl. We had a pretty rough start. There were language and cultural barriers. But we figured that things would eventually work out. This family did not want to leave their home.
Also they never intended to come to Germany in the first place. They wanted to stay in Poland but at that time there just wasn‘t a place for them due to polish people being overwhelmed with the amount of refugees. So the were put on a train and send to Berlin. From there they came to our little town with just two bags of clothes, no money, no food and without speaking a single word of German.
We wanted to help and show our support for Ukraine so we volunteered and took them in. The first couple of weeks they were dazed, shellshocked and confused. The little girl was traumatized. We tried our best to help and we never expected anything in return because again these people did not chose this. They were dragged into this war by fucking Putin.
From the little information they got from back home we learned that their appartment was destroyed. They had lost everything. So my wife worked very hard to sign them up for government help, got them a job and we even managed to get their daughter into a local school were she could be together with other children from Ukraine.
To me these things did not feel special. We never posted anything on social media. We never wanted public attention or gratitude. To us it felt like the right thing to do.
But our relationship with our guests became strained in the last few weeks. It pains me to write this but the people we tought had become our friends in a way treated my wife with very little respect. They made demands, got angry when we did not help right away and decided that our rules - the few we made - did not apply to them. Today my wife snapped and pretty much kicked them out while I was at work. I could not intervene.
Things went south and when I came back home there was nothing I could do. My wife told me that she was done and that she needs me to support her. So this is what I am doing now. But I still feel terrible mostly for the little girl. I can hear them pack their belongings.
Tomorrow my wife will bring them to a shelter in our city. It is a nice enough place with other refugees from Ukraine. They will have their own room, the will have food, water and electricity. And still I feel like am letting the whole of Ukraine down. When your husbands, fathers and sons are fighting we could not even get along with one family. I am sorry.