Je kan helemaal niks doen vriend.
Ik adviseer iemand die gedumpt is om een dag of twee te wachten en dan één zakelijk bericht te sturen waarin je zegt dat je het niet eens bent met de breuk, maar haar keuze respecteert. En dat ze je mag contacteren mocht ze inzien dat ze een fout heeft gemaakt. En dat was het. Daarna laat je haar met rust.
Een stukje uit de film Swingers uit 1996 met Vince Vaughn en Jon Favreau:
MIKE
And what if I don't want to give up on
her?
ROB
You don't call.
MIKE
But you said I shouldn't call if I
wanted to give up on her.
ROB
Right.
MIKE
So I don't call either way.
ROB
Right.
MIKE
So what's the difference?
ROB
The only difference between giving up and
not giving up is if you take her back
when she wants to come back. See, you
can't do anything to make her want to
come back. You can only do things to
make her not want to come back.
MIKE
So the only difference is if I forget
about her or pretend to forget about her.
ROB
Right.
MIKE
Well that sucks.
ROB
It sucks.
MIKE
So it's almost a retroactive decision.
So I could, like, let's say, forget about
her and when she comes back make like I
just pretended to forget about her.
ROB
Right...or more likely the opposite.
MIKE
Right... Wait, what do you mean?
ROB
I mean first you'll pretend not to care,
not call - whatever, and then,
eventually, you really won't care.
MIKE
Unless she comes back first.
ROB
Ah, see, that's the thing. Somehow they
don't come back until you really don't
care anymore.
MIKE
There's the rub.
ROB
There's the rub.