ja je kan als kind van 4 beter van te voren even met je vader rond de tafel gaan zitten en zeggen wat je eisen zijn.quote:
http://kristof.blogs.nyti(...)r-from-dylan-farrow/quote:What’s your favorite Woody Allen movie? Before you answer, you should know: when I was seven years old, Woody Allen took me by the hand and led me into a dim, closet-like attic on the second floor of our house. He told me to lay on my stomach and play with my brother’s electric train set. Then he sexually assaulted me. He talked to me while he did it, whispering that I was a good girl, that this was our secret, promising that we’d go to Paris and I’d be a star in his movies. I remember staring at that toy train, focusing on it as it traveled in its circle around the attic. To this day, I find it difficult to look at toy trains.
For as long as I could remember, my father had been doing things to me that I didn’t like. I didn’t like how often he would take me away from my mom, siblings and friends to be alone with him. I didn’t like it when he would stick his thumb in my mouth. I didn’t like it when I had to get in bed with him under the sheets when he was in his underwear. I didn’t like it when he would place his head in my naked lap and breathe in and breathe out. I would hide under beds or lock myself in the bathroom to avoid these encounters, but he always found me. These things happened so often, so routinely, so skillfully hidden from a mother that would have protected me had she known, that I thought it was normal. I thought this was how fathers doted on their daughters. But what he did to me in the attic felt different. I couldn’t keep the secret anymore.
When I asked my mother if her dad did to her what Woody Allen did to me, I honestly did not know the answer. I also didn’t know the firestorm it would trigger. I didn’t know that my father would use his sexual relationship with my sister to cover up the abuse he inflicted on me. I didn’t know that he would accuse my mother of planting the abuse in my head and call her a liar for defending me. I didn’t know that I would be made to recount my story over and over again, to doctor after doctor, pushed to see if I’d admit I was lying as part of a legal battle I couldn’t possibly understand. At one point, my mother sat me down and told me that I wouldn’t be in trouble if I was lying – that I could take it all back. I couldn’t. It was all true. But sexual abuse claims against the powerful stall more easily. There were experts willing to attack my credibility. There were doctors willing to gaslight an abused child.
After a custody hearing denied my father visitation rights, my mother declined to pursue criminal charges, despite findings of probable cause by the State of Connecticut – due to, in the words of the prosecutor, the fragility of the “child victim.” Woody Allen was never convicted of any crime. That he got away with what he did to me haunted me as I grew up. I was stricken with guilt that I had allowed him to be near other little girls. I was terrified of being touched by men. I developed an eating disorder. I began cutting myself. That torment was made worse by Hollywood. All but a precious few (my heroes) turned a blind eye. Most found it easier to accept the ambiguity, to say, “who can say what happened,” to pretend that nothing was wrong. Actors praised him at awards shows. Networks put him on TV. Critics put him in magazines. Each time I saw my abuser’s face – on a poster, on a t-shirt, on television – I could only hide my panic until I found a place to be alone and fall apart.
Last week, Woody Allen was nominated for his latest Oscar. But this time, I refuse to fall apart. For so long, Woody Allen’s acceptance silenced me. It felt like a personal rebuke, like the awards and accolades were a way to tell me to shut up and go away. But the survivors of sexual abuse who have reached out to me – to support me and to share their fears of coming forward, of being called a liar, of being told their memories aren’t their memories – have given me a reason to not be silent, if only so others know that they don’t have to be silent either.
Today, I consider myself lucky. I am happily married. I have the support of my amazing brothers and sisters. I have a mother who found within herself a well of fortitude that saved us from the chaos a predator brought into our home.
But others are still scared, vulnerable, and struggling for the courage to tell the truth. The message that Hollywood sends matters for them.
What if it had been your child, Cate Blanchett? Louis CK? Alec Baldwin? What if it had been you, Emma Stone? Or you, Scarlett Johansson? You knew me when I was a little girl, Diane Keaton. Have you forgotten me?
Woody Allen is a living testament to the way our society fails the survivors of sexual assault and abuse.
So imagine your seven-year-old daughter being led into an attic by Woody Allen. Imagine she spends a lifetime stricken with nausea at the mention of his name. Imagine a world that celebrates her tormenter.
Are you imagining that? Now, what’s your favorite Woody Allen movie?
Wat maakt jou doen 'twijfelen'?quote:Op zondag 2 februari 2014 12:52 schreef ikbennieuwopfok het volgende:
Normaal zou je denken "dat verzint ze toch niet?", maar ik weet niet meer zo goed wat ik er nu van moet denken.
Omdat genoeg mensen misbruik (haha) willen maken van bekende mensen voor hun eigen belang. En omdat liegen over misbruik/verkrachting steeds vaker voorkomt.quote:
ja maar die was al 23, geloof ik, toen ze met elkaar gingen. kan je toch moeilijk kindermisbruik noemen.quote:Op maandag 3 februari 2014 10:57 schreef tong80 het volgende:
Hij is toch getrouwd met een andere adoptiedochter, of zoiets.
bronquote:Woody Allen Talked About Sex with 12-Year-Olds ... 38 Years Ago
There was smoke nearly 40 years ago -- Woody Allen didn't explicitly say he was a pedophile ...but he sure came close ... openly describing a hypothetical orgy involving him and fifteen 12-year-old girls.
TMZ dug up the 1976 interview published in People. Then 41-year-old Woody said, "I'm open-minded about sex. I'm not above reproach; if anything, I'm below reproach. I mean, if I was caught in a love nest with fifteen 12-year-old girls tomorrow, people would think, yeah, I always knew that about him."
He added, "Nothing I could come up with would surprise anyone ... I admit to it all."
And here's another gem: "It's no accomplishment to have or raise kids. Any fool can do it."
Funny ... because 4 years later -- in 1980 -- Woody began dating actress Mia Farrow, with whom he'd have one child and adopt two, including daughter Dylan ... who later accused him of sexually assaulting her at age 7. He then married her sister.
leuke familie...quote:Op donderdag 6 februari 2014 09:47 schreef tong80 het volgende:
AMSTERDAM - Moses Farrow, de geadopteerde zoon van Mia en Woody Allen, haalt stevig uit naar zijn moeder en zijn zus Dylan. "Hun verhaal dat Woody Dylan misbruikte is gelogen!"
Volgens Moses is zijn moeder zeer rancuneus jegens Woody, omdat hij haar verliet voor Mia's geadopteerde dochter Soon-Yi. "Mijn moeder heeft me geconditioneerd om mijn vader te haten omdat hij ons gezin verliet en mijn zus Dylan had misbruikt. Ik heb hem voor haar jaren gehaat", vertelt hij aan People magazine.
"Maar nu zie ik dat ze wraak op hem wilde nemen wegens Soon-Yi. Woody heeft mijn zus nooit misbruikt. Op de dag dat het volgens haar gebeurd is, waren er zes of zeven mensen aanwezig thuis. Iedereen was bij elkaar in één ruimte, niemand, dus ook niet mijn vader of mijn zus, trok zich terug in een aparte kamer. Mijn moeder was op dat moment aan het winkelen. Ik weet niet of mijn zus echt gelooft dat ze misbruikt is of dat ze dat alleen zegt om onze moeder tevreden te houden. Want als je haar niet tevreden houdt, ben je tegen haar en als je tegen haar bent heb je echt een probleem."
Dylan schreef eerder een open brief waarin ze Woody beschuldigde van misbruik toen ze zeven jaar was. Woody liet op zijn beurt weten dat er niets waar was van haar beschuldigingen
Grappig ook dat ie nog weet dat 20 jaar geleden ze met z'n zevenen in de kamer zaten niemand de kamer had verlaten en Mia Farrow boodschappen ging doen.quote:
nou het was al veel eerder een rechtzaak geweest, he. toen is ie vrijgesproken.quote:Op donderdag 6 februari 2014 12:38 schreef tong80 het volgende:
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Grappig ook dat ie nog weet dat 20 jaar geleden ze met z'n zevenen in de kamer zaten niemand de kamer had verlaten en Mia Farrow boodschappen ging doen.
Nou, niet echt. Die rechtszaak ging over hoederecht, waarbij Mia Farrow met misbruik kwam aanzetten als argument. Dat argument werd niet aanvaard, maar Allen verloor die zaak wel en mocht de dochter in kwestie niet meer zien, waarbij de rechter ook kritisch was voor de onderzoekers omdat er geen bewijs voor misbruik werd gevonden (wat me toch doet vermoeden dat die rechter ook zijn twijfels had). Later kwam de openbare aanklager vertellen dat hij "probable cause" had om een aparte zaak te beginnen die enkel over het misbruik ging, maar dat hij dat niet gedaan heeft om het kind niet verder te traumatiseren.quote:Op donderdag 6 februari 2014 12:58 schreef pokkerdepok het volgende:
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nou het was al veel eerder een rechtzaak geweest, he. toen is ie vrijgesproken.
ja ik weet t ook niet hoor,. maar volgens mij is er alleen de beschuldiging van de dochter. verder niets. kan je dan wel uit concluderen dat allen dus een geurtje heeft, maar dat kind was 7, en had dus een moeder die bekend staat als geestelijk nogal onstabiel, en die allen kapot wou maken. het zal niet het eerste kind zijn die iets is aangepraat, dat is een reeel risico met dit soort zaken, zelfs als kidneren gewoon door de politie worden verhoord. er zijn daarom zelfs hele lijsten met gedrags codes opgesteld nu, die verhoorders in dit soort zaken moeten volgen, om dat te vermijden.quote:Op donderdag 6 februari 2014 21:48 schreef SaintOfKillers het volgende:
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Nou, niet echt. Die rechtszaak ging over hoederecht, waarbij Mia Farrow met misbruik kwam aanzetten als argument. Dat argument werd niet aanvaard, maar Allen verloor die zaak wel en mocht de dochter in kwestie niet meer zien, waarbij de rechter ook kritisch was voor de onderzoekers omdat er geen bewijs voor misbruik werd gevonden (wat me toch doet vermoeden dat die rechter ook zijn twijfels had). Later kwam de openbare aanklager vertellen dat hij "probable cause" had om een aparte zaak te beginnen die enkel over het misbruik ging, maar dat hij dat niet gedaan heeft om het kind niet verder te traumatiseren.
Het lijkt er toch sterk op dat iedereen die nauw bij de zaak betrokken was, vond dat die hele Woody Allen maar een raar geurtje had.
http://www.tmz.com/2014/0(...)er-dylan-mia-farrow/quote:Woody Allen finally fired off a response to his daughter Dylan's molestation accusation -- vehemently denying it, and laying out expert testimony to back his claim that Mia Farrow concocted the whole story for revenge.
Allen says when Farrow first accused him 21 years ago .. he didn't even get a lawyer because he thought everyone would see she was obviously lying to because she was angry about his relationship with her adopted daughter, Soon-Yi.
Further, in his op-ed for the New York Times, Allen points out:
- Dylan initially told a doctor she had NOT been molested
- he willingly took a lie detector test and passed ... while Mia refused to take one
- an expert sex abuse panel at Yale concluded Dylan had not been abused at all
Woody adds those Yale experts also determined ... "most likely a vulnerable, stressed-out 7-year-old was coached by Mia Farrow."
He also quotes Moses -- his eldest son with Mia, not the Bible guy -- who has said, "Of course Woody did not molest my sister."
Oh, and there's this major dig -- Woody says Mia was outraged by his relationship with the much younger Soon-Yi ... "despite the fact she had dated a much older Frank Sinatra when she was 19."
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