Do what works for the rest, not what works just for you.
There is no reality, only perception. What seems real and true to you isn't necessarily the same for your forum. Try to understand how your behavior feels to someone else; you may feel that you're giving guidance, but your behavior may actually be condescending.
A good forum posting requires emotional integrity; dysfunctional forum postings have parent-child roles. If you're trying to change your posting, take a look at yourself. You may have your own issues to deal with.
Don't white-knuckle your way through life. Let the natural flow of things happen, and your stress level will drop dramatically.
If you need professional help, get it. Realize and acknowledge that the situation is out of control, and talk with somebody about it.
Practice "thought-stopping." Whenever you feel the urge to nag, say, "I am not going to do that." Make a point of telling your forum when you're proud, too. Keep a good balance.
Don't demand behavior; command it. You may be able to make your moderators kiss you hello each day, but that kiss will mean more if it comes on its own.
quote:Ter 'balance': Een Judas-kus komt ook uit eigen initiatief
Op donderdag 20 juni 2002 12:03 schreef Dr.Phil het volgende:
You may be able to make your moderators kiss you hello each day, but that kiss will mean more if it comes on its own.
Do you feel the need to post offtopic 'till you drop? Don't confuse the quality and quantity of your posts. They simply aren't the same things. This attitude is rude, immature and inconsiderate. You can't post offtopic all the time without doing it on purpose. Statistically, you're bound to stop posting offtopic here and there. Focus on the impact that your posts have.
So how do you stop posting off-topic? Replace your behavior with a new, incompatible one. Make a pact with yourself to stop posting off-topic for ninety days. Even better: make a pact with yourself to stop posting in general for ninety days. Realistically determine how long it takes you to get ready, and plan accordingly. Create a tight schedule that will not allow you to touch any keyboard, and stick to it. After ninety days of sticking to this plan, your off-topic behavior should be a relic of the past.
If you make earnest efforts on your own to stop your compulsive behavior, yet it continues, seek professional help.
an hour to like someone,
and a day to love someone,
but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.
dokter Phil.Or do I need professional help?
I tried for years but the result was very below zero.
Still doing the same.
*grijpt naar de seroxat*
quote:Hij verstaat je niet hoor.
Op zondag 21 juli 2002 03:07 schreef laffer het volgende:
oow, shit, dokter phil hier op Fok.
*grijpt naar de seroxat*
quote:Dr.Phil geniet momenteel van een welverdiende nachtrust, morgen kunt u antwoord verwachten.
Op zondag 21 juli 2002 03:03 schreef fatima het volgende:
And what if you dont see the topics at all?How can you be on or off than?I see no topics mayby you can help me out
dokter Phil.Or do I need professional help?
I tried for years but the result was very below zero.
Still doing the same.
quote:Dank u Cosma,zeg wat was dat overigens een lief plaatje van die eekhoorn laatst!
Op zondag 21 juli 2002 03:55 schreef Cosma-Shiva het volgende:[..]
Dr.Phil geniet momenteel van een welverdiende nachtrust, morgen kunt u antwoord verwachten.
Alhoewel een Minxje ook niet te versmaden is ik zit een beetje in te dutten hiero.
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